How to Vanquish Those Dark Places

I love the holidays because I get to see my children who live in other cities, as well as family members that we don’t see except during the holidays or on special occasions.

Sending out Christmas cards and buying gifts is fun too, provided I stay within my budget. But those are outer fun things to do as I prepare for the Christmas holidays. I also prepare myself and our home by declaring spiritual intentions of peace, joy and love into each person that comes to visit or spend a longer time with us.

This year was no different except that I didn’t give myself enough time to 

meditate (each day). I usually like to get up before everyone else, find an unoccupied room, pray, give thanks and do some yoga stretches. It puts me in a great frame of mind, ready to handle my day.

This year my routine got interrupted. We had out of town family staying with us three weeks before Christmas and I was helping out with other’s morning routines. My routine was interrupted.

During the week of Christmas, I ended up with a head cold and lots of negative, irritable thoughts that seemed to come out of nowhere. Confrontational thoughts and situations started resurrecting themselves in my mind and I found I was not feeling very superwomanish!

I don’t know about you, but feelings of confrontation, dislike and irritation slip in while I’m asleep. When the morning comes and I feel a mood change from Ms. Happy to Ms. Grinch, here’s what I do:

  • Repeat whatever positive meditations I can remember. It helps pull my energies from negative thoughts to more positive ones.
  • Take a long shower. While in the shower, I play a Louise Hay or Abraham meditation or some gospel music. It uplifts my mood.
  • If the weather isn’t ridiculously cold (like it is right now in Chicago), go for a walk or run. The time with nature and the exercise will increase your endorphins and you’ll feel more positive.

If the dark places are still hanging around you and seem to be unshakeable, reach out to someone who specializes in mental health issues and talk about it.

I believe a great life is our inheritance. Whether you enjoy it or not is your choice.

C. Lynn Williams

#MsParentguru & Founder of Finding Superwoman™


December 27, 2017 at 3:23 pm 2 comments

Don’t Be Afraid to Let Go

Have you ever held onto something that you knew you needed to let go off? A relationship… job… business… Sometimes we hold on tightly because we’re afraid of what the change will mean in our life. And sometimes we’re just afraid of the change itself and what it will mean for our future.

I’m thinking about the changes that I’ve made in my life. Many of them were life-changing. Others were more spiritually oriented and required that I change my thoughts, expectations or wants. Each change made me the women that I am today.

2018 is a year of positive change for me. I can feel it, and today I decided that I am open and receptive to what that will mean for me.

What changes are awaiting you? Are you ready embrace them and move forward? Let’s go!

C. Lynn Williams

#MsParentguru & Founder of Finding Superwoman™

December 20, 2017 at 2:02 pm Leave a comment

How to Move Past Holiday Depression

Have you ever had the blues and couldn’t shake it off? Last year around the holidays, I was going through life’s storms. My father had passed away at the beginning of the year, and we were having financial difficulties. While Christmas gift-giving was very lean, we enjoyed getting together with our children and other family members.xmas-tear

I was happy to be alive and healthy.     

This year my coaching business has picked up and my husband is working. You would think our holiday forecast would be brighter, (and it is) however there are different challenges. I’m busier than ever before and have little time for thinking and planning. I realize that I have to let some things go. #choices #challenges

As much as I love the holidays, I have mixed feelings about enjoying them because of so many family members we have lost in past years. I think about one of my favorite aunts who is no longer around to say Merry Christmas or my mom who isn’t here to make her delicious almond cookies and listen to my stories.

To move myself past these feelings of loss and sadness, for the last 30 days, I have been telling God & myself 5 things (daily) for which I am thankful. Today was a more emotional morning and I decided to list 10 things. These reminders of things (or people) for whom I am thankful, make me feel blessed for the good that I have. It also keeps me from focusing on what hasn’t happened yet or who is no longer with me.

What I do know, is that as festive as the Christmas holidays are, it also brings up memories of family & friends who are no longer with us. For me, it means not getting stuck in those memories and making new ones instead. Our daughter got married this year and we have a new son-in-law. New memories! One of our nieces had a baby, which means we now have six great nephews! New memories! I’m doing what I love to do which is teach, write books & coach parents on being & doing better.

I know that I am in control of my thoughts, and how I feel is determined by how I view the experiences in life. I can see life as half-empty (depressing) or half-full (promising). So I’m drying my tears and thinking about those 10 things for which I am thankful for. One of them is you!  

C. Lynn Williams

Author & Founder of Finding Superwoman™
#Happy Holidays!

December 6, 2017 at 10:14 pm Leave a comment

Effectively Managing Thanksgiving Activities

When the holidays occur, does your willpower for time management go out the window? Do you feel that nothing can be done properly unless you do it yourself? That’s a bad feeling especially when you are exhausted, irritable and everybody went to bed hours ago. You make it a point to do everything to make Thanksgiving wonderful, but when the day arrives, you are exhausted, testy and no fun to be around. 

I’ve been there too! The major difference is that I grew up in a household where my mother believed in delegating tasks to my sister, brother and me. It didn’t mean that there weren’t a ton of tasks that only she could take care of, but we all participated. If we didn’t do it to her liking, she taught us how to do it properly. As I hosted Thanksgiving dinners with my own family, I send out the menu and asked who wanted or to make (or purchase) an item. This made our dinners more collaborative and I wasn’t completely stressed out by the time the guests arrived.

Depending on your traditions, Thanksgiving may be a formal affair with tablecloths, silver (yes the kind that has to be polished) and china. Or you may be less formal, but everyone will be at your home and you have lots of food to cook. Either way, here are three tips for effectively managing Thanksgiving activities and preparation without losing your cool.

  1. Create a list of things that have to be done. (It’s not too late, as long as you create it today!)
  2. On that list, put names of family members or friends who you can delegate this task to.
  3. Be gracious with the help that you receive.

#3 is probably just as important as #1 & #2. Being critical of the help you receive, whether it’s cutting up veggies, ironing tablecloths or how someone prepared a dish, makes those who help you, disappear when you need help in the future. If you don’t like the gravy, your daughter-in-law made, keep it to yourself.

Oh and be sure to get to bed at a decent time on Wednesday, so that you can enjoy your family and friends.

Happy Thanksgiving!



I would love to hear how you slayed on Thanksgiving?

When I coach my clients about finding their superwoman, I encourage them to discuss what’s holding them back and determine what is most important in their life: work, family or relationships. If you are struggling with time management and planning, Click Here to schedule a complimentary discovery session with me.

C. Lynn Williams

Award-winning Author & Founder of Finding Superwoman™

November 20, 2017 at 4:23 pm Leave a comment

5 Brain Warm-up Exercises for Mental Clarity

Mental clarity is essential to our health and success, and luckily it can be restored very easily, and very quickly. Here are 5 fantastic brain warm-up exercises that can be done in the morning to encourage mental clarity, leaving you with a mind as clear as a blue sky.

1. Find a Noun for Each Letter of the Alphabet
This simple exercise gets both sides of your brain to work together and it’s quite enjoyable too. Go through the alphabet and think of a noun (the more unusual the better) for each letter. Your left brain will help you to think of the word, and your right brain will imagine what the noun looks like (color, size, shape). This exercise gets the entire brain to focus and eliminates brain fog.

2. Classical Music

Studies have shown that music (especially classical music) can have a significant effect on our brain function, mental state and mood (it’s called The Mozart Effect). 
Calming pieces of classical music can slow down your heart rate, which decreases blood pressure and lowers the level of stress hormones in the body. A stress-free mind is a clear mind, and this can be even more effective if you play the instrument yourself.
Fun fact: surgeons have been known to perform surgery while listening to classical music!

3. Yoga
We know exercise is a healthy way to relieve stress, but yoga is even better because it combines exercise and meditation to de-clutter the mind. When a person is holding a yoga pose, their mind is focused on their breathing and staying still so much so that other thoughts are removed. Kickstart your day with some mind-clearing yoga poses such as ‘Warrior I Pose’ or ‘Tree Pose’, which really diverts your focus to breathing and balance.

4. Brain Dumping

Brain dumping is about transferring all of the thoughts in your head onto paper a bit like journaling. All that’s needed for this exercise is a notebook Start jotting down any tasks that you haven’t done (big or small) and anything else that seems to have gotten the best of you. 
By writing down tasks you’ll gain more clarity in terms of prioritization, making it much easier to focus on the important tasks and leave the trivial ones to be dealt with later on. Brain dumping relieves you of that panicky feeling where you stress so much about all of the things that you need to do, that you can’t do them.

5. Brain Games
Games such as sudokus, crosswords and math quizzes are a great way to clear brain-fog. Whether you prefer mathematical problems or word games, a brain puzzle in the morning will stimulate the mind and improve brain function. Puzzles also improve memory and reduce the likelihood of brain degeneration in your later years!

Did you know that there are many other ways that mental clarity can be attained? These include making sure that you’re hydrated, eating a balanced diet for the vitamins and minerals that the brain needs to function, physical exercise to release serotonin (the feel-good hormone), and getting enough sleep so that our brains are rested.
Combining a healthy lifestyle with any of the above exercises in the morning will leave your brain clutter-free and ready to concentrate on the important tasks of the day.

I would love to hear what you do to achieve mental clarity?

When I coach my clients about finding their superwoman, I encourage them to discuss what’s really bugging them and determine what is most important in their life: work, family or relationships. I believe that you can have a wonderful relationship with your partner and your children as well as a successful career.

If you need help moving forward, Click Here to schedule a complimentary discovery session.

C. Lynn Williams

Award-winning Author & Founder of Finding Superwoman™

November 1, 2017 at 3:48 am Leave a comment

The Importance of Setting Boundaries

Has anyone ever stood too close to you in an elevator? How did you feel? It was uncomfortable right?

Not only do I feel a little claustrophobic in a crowded elevator, I also feel that way when tasks start to pile up on me and I allow them! I don’t say NO!  In the past, there were a lot of reasons that kept me from saying NO –  my environment, my upbringing, my willingness to please; all kept me from saying “No I can’t do that for you.” It didn’t matter whether the request was work-related, friends, or family members.

I realized that I did not set boundaries for myself. I would do the task, but be angry about it. I’d say to myself – “I can’t believe they asked me to do this!” It wasn’t until I realized that I was the only one who could control this. The only way I was going to have time to myself, was to allow myself to set boundaries around what I would and would not do.

Depending on your culture, upbringing, or social status, the only time women feel comfortable setting boundaries is when they don’t feel good. Society understands when women are sick and can’t do something as opposed to not wanting to.It’s a big difference between wanting to do something and not having the resources, and not wanting to do something and not knowing how to say no. Setting boundaries is a way of caring for you. 

Just like with any other habit that we begin, start practicing by saying No. Practice setting boundaries on what you’re willing and unwilling to do. Give yourself permission to say no to things that you really don’t want to do. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but just like with any other habit that you practice, you will be surprised at how comfortable you feel and how it begins to relieve the stress and the anxiety that you experience when you take on yet another project that you really don’t have the time or the desire to do.

As entrepreneurs and busy businesswomen, our success is predicated on making wise decisions. Not just making wise decisions for our businesses, but for ourselves as well. Our male counterparts do it every day. How often has your significant other said no to you? It’s just one little task that needed to be done, and he said no? Don’t get mad at him. Just learn to do it more often – for you.  #setboundaries

Interested in learning more about how to control the stresses in your life and maintain balance? Contact me – to receive information about my inspiring coaching programs for working and entrepreneur mothers.

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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru

Founder of Finding Superwoman, Author & Speaker

October 20, 2017 at 12:01 pm Leave a comment

Question for You!

What should you do if you don’t like your kid? “I didn’t want a child, but my husband did. So we had a child. She is cared for by my husband and his parents. She is 4, and talks constantly. She’s driving me crazy. What can I do?”

(This question was posed on one of my online networks for parents, and it really touched my heart)

How would you advise this mom? I’d love to hear back from you. I’ll print the first 5 responses (serious answers only, no sarcasm please) in next week’s blog.

C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru

October 4, 2017 at 6:55 am Leave a comment

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